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The Observation

Figuratively speaking a door is a mean of approach or access. It’s symbolic of a place of success or achievement, and gaining access through “that door” means you have made it! At that point, seemingly, your unique gifts are acknowledged and you are finally validated for all of your hard work and success.  I’ve observed many people loose themselves trying to gain access through these proverbial doors. Without thought, they pattern themselves after the man before them who seemingly “made it”. I’ve observed men block access from others- attacking anybody that attempted to get through without their seal of approval like a vulture zeroed in on a dead animal. I’ve observed men walk away from these doors depressed, suicidal, broken – having spent every ounce of their energy banging and banging and banging for access only to be denied.

The Enlightenment 

How the heck does one gain access through this proverbial door! I studied, observed, spied, took notes, and even was bold enough to walk up and knock a couple of times only to be rejected. Then it hit me…maybe it was never meant for me to go through these doors. As I pondered on the thought that maybe traditional doors weren’t for me, I realized that all of the men that have made a real, tangible, measurable mark in the landscape of our society gave up on the traditional doors and simply created their own.

The Reality

Here’s the truth of it all – The rejection from access was just what I needed. See denying a true trailblazer access is the best thing you could ever do for them. They’ll retreat and regroup – retreating and regrouping is imperative because true leaders have experienced loads of rejection from their peers and contemporaries due to their innate ability to go against the prick – they never fit in and often had to struggle with the temptation of lowering themselves to a lesser standard just to feel apart of, so accustomed to rejection, they have become masters at using it to their advantage. As well, true leaders are experts in talking to themselves, they are self-motivators and if you give a true leader just a moment to get to their quiet place, they WILL regroup, and comeback with new strategy.

The Conclusion 

I saw myself getting jaded with fooling around false yielding doors, seeing people parade around them as if the yield from them were real. So here’s what I decided to do –  find another way.  I’ll create a door unique to me, that yields the success that only my hands can yield. I’m aware that it will be tedious, I’ll make a lot of mistakes, but handled right mistakes covert properly into lessons learned. I’m shifting my focus from the fickleness of the masses, by looking inward- searching for the blueprints to build my own door.