Well I’m trying something I’ve never done before which is freestyle blogging. Think of it– I have lines vs. bars!! Ok I know for some of you that was the corniest joke ever, but I’m hoping there are some of you out there like me who got GREAT pleasure out of that joke.
It is amazing how life can be good and bad at the same time? It’s like the universe knows how to keep everything properly balanced for your good. Picture it — you are about to embark on the biggest journey of your life, but at the same time you are scared to death. Will that fear stop you? HECK NO! Is that fear causing you great anguish? Heck Yes! The most interesting thing about it is, working through that fear, facing it while simultaneously moving forward is what brings the best out of you. It’s really a lesson I had to learn the hard way….
Work through it vs. letting it work you
I remember when I really understood the above section divide statement. I was laying on the floor in my room trying to figure out how I could get out of this mess of a state I was in. It was like I couldn’t get myself together. I remember thinking, I’m letting life, clients, and money pass me by. I said to myself, I can just throw all my problems to the back burner and act like they don’t exist or I can just accept the fact that this is what I have to deal with and learn how to manage life with major issues. I decided the latter option was best. Now for some of you, you might think this is common sense, but for me (at the time) when life would get challenging I would loose focus fall into this deep dark depressing abyss. When I learned that I could live life, grow my business, be normal while simultaneously managing dark issues — that is when I found my true freedom. I didn’t have to choose between evolving internally and evolving externally. I focused on inward evolution and it led to external evolution. In essence I learned how to work through my issues vs letting the issues work me. You have to realize you are as powerful as you realize you are. Self-actualization is key to winning in life. Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, failures and victories is like the melting pot that creates success.
Life with Imperfections is Perfect Living
Yes you read that right! Ok so I promise this will be my last paragraph, I’m on the roll now. Since I’ve spent the last two paragraphs really focusing on life’s contrast let me finish it with one more. The only way to really understand perfection is to be intimately involved with imperfection. It’s only when you acknowledge imperfection that you can then change it. See that’s the beauty of life, you see something wrong and you attempt to alter or fix it. This experience of seeing imperfection and addressing it also can serve as a great mirror to self. You realize things about yourself that maybe you didn’t know, for example, though that particular thing is imperfect you prefer to leave it as such vs. going through the inconvenience of change. Going through the consistent cycle of seeing, acknowledging, and addressing imperfection, and learning about yourself yields a wisdom on life that can’t be purchased in a book. In essence it yields perfect living.
Ok so I won’t guarantee that I’ll do this freestyle blogging again, but I must admit it was fun just to shoot off the top of my head. Thanks for reading and be sure to connect with me on my Facebook page by Clicking Here.
Have you defined your endpoint? What is the endpoint? It’s the end, or the conclusion of a series of events. Have you ever gone on a trip without being fully aware of the destination? Before you take one step towards the destination typically you have planned what time you are leaving, how long it will take to get there, and how much money will it take. While you are traveling, you only choose the gas stations, restaurants, and hotels that will keep you on the prescribed path to your destination. See, Knowing where you are going, dictates the entire journey. #vinnyism Truthfully, to have a successful journey you really only need to know two things: 1. What is your starting point 2. What is your endpoint.
Your starting point is extremely important because this is how you map out the best direction to get to the endpoint. If you don’t know where you are, then you will never find where you are trying to go. A lot of times, because of the pain of our past, which in essence is the pain of our now (#vinnyisms THE PAINS OF OUR PAST ARE THE PAINS OF OUR NOW IF THEY ARE UN-DEALT WITH) we hurriedly try to remove from our now, without facing it, without being intimate with it. You have to know your pain, you have to know your struggle, you have to become one with your misery. The taking on of the sludge of your now, puts you in a proper assessment of your location. If you don’t face your own sludge, you’ll fool yourself into thinking you’re something that you are really not. So when you go to map out your life journey, you’ll mark a false starting point, and ALWAYS get lost while trying to get to the destination. If you are reading this blog, hear me and hear me clear KNOW THYSELF. This will give you the proper scope to get to the desired destination. You’ll learn the wisdom needed to fleet your present condition.
Now that you have clearly defined where you are, it’s time to focus on your destination. Once you are clear, and very clear of your present state, there is no need to stay there – move forward as fast as possible. Mark your destination, and plan accordingly – I do need to add a slight caveat, which is, all the planning in the world will not stop life from happening. Traffic jams, accidents, breakdowns are sometimes inevitable, BUT none of those misfortunes ever change the destination. It only affects when you will get there, not where you are going. While on the journey to your endpoint, there are disciplines and parameters that must be followed. Going to fast or to slow will put yourself and others in danger. So there will be signs along the way to keep you on track, as long as you follow the signs you’ll never be stopped or hindered. ONLY when you ignore the signs, you’re halted in the journey. You’re questioned and reprimanded, and sometimes penalized.
If you are reading this, chances are you are a visionary, perhaps even a weary visionary. No matter if you are at the start, in the middle of the journey, or near the end, be encouraged. You will get to the destination, and when you get there, you’ll be right on time. If you are just starting out, embrace your present. If you are in the journey, don’t ignore the signs and pace yourself. If you are at the end destination, rest up, you’ll be on another journey before you know it!!
Figuratively speaking a door is a mean of approach or access. It’s symbolic of a place of success or achievement, and gaining access through “that door” means you have made it! At that point, seemingly, your unique gifts are acknowledged and you are finally validated for all of your hard work and success. I’ve observed many people loose themselves trying to gain access through these proverbial doors. Without thought, they pattern themselves after the man before them who seemingly “made it”. I’ve observed men block access from others- attacking anybody that attempted to get through without their seal of approval like a vulture zeroed in on a dead animal. I’ve observed men walk away from these doors depressed, suicidal, broken – having spent every ounce of their energy banging and banging and banging for access only to be denied.
How the heck does one gain access through this proverbial door! I studied, observed, spied, took notes, and even was bold enough to walk up and knock a couple of times only to be rejected. Then it hit me…maybe it was never meant for me to go through these doors. As I pondered on the thought that maybe traditional doors weren’t for me, I realized that all of the men that have made a real, tangible, measurable mark in the landscape of our society gave up on the traditional doors and simply created their own.
Here’s the truth of it all – The rejection from access was just what I needed. See denying a true trailblazer access is the best thing you could ever do for them. They’ll retreat and regroup – retreating and regrouping is imperative because true leaders have experienced loads of rejection from their peers and contemporaries due to their innate ability to go against the prick – they never fit in and often had to struggle with the temptation of lowering themselves to a lesser standard just to feel apart of, so accustomed to rejection, they have become masters at using it to their advantage. As well, true leaders are experts in talking to themselves, they are self-motivators and if you give a true leader just a moment to get to their quiet place, they WILL regroup, and comeback with new strategy.
I saw myself getting jaded with fooling around false yielding doors, seeing people parade around them as if the yield from them were real. So here’s what I decided to do – find another way. I’ll create a door unique to me, that yields the success that only my hands can yield. I’m aware that it will be tedious, I’ll make a lot of mistakes, but handled right mistakes covert properly into lessons learned. I’m shifting my focus from the fickleness of the masses, by looking inward- searching for the blueprints to build my own door.